I love to read, but as the mom of a five active kids, my literary interests are often put on hold. Most of my reading these days is limited to the prep period of the teacher I happen to be substituting for on any given day. Otherwise, it’s quips and quotes here and there, usually found on or through Facebook. Such is the case for this week’s find. From Gina Gallagher and Petricia Terrasi, the authors of the book Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid! The Movement of Imperfection:
“With Halloween upon us, please keep in mind, a lot of little people will be visiting your home. Be accepting. The child who is grabbing more than one piece of candy may have poor fine motor skills. The child who takes forever to pick out one piece of candy may have motor planning issues. The child who does not say trick or treat or thank you may be non-verbal. The child who looks disappointed when they see your bowl might have an allergy. The child who isn’t wearing a costume at all might have a sensory issue (SPD) or autism. Be nice. Be patient. It’s everyone’s Halloween.”
I might add to the line about a child who isn’t wearing a costume at all: or one who’s wearing a costume a bit snug or seemingly too small. You see, our son loves Super Why! It’s a great little PBS show that helps kids learn key reading skills, including alphabet, rhyming, spelling, etc. He was Super Why! for Halloween a couple of years ago. In going through our costume and dress up boxes, the Super Why! costume has been found and Ben has proclaimed Super Why! as his costume of choice.
It fits, sort of, and that is good enough for him. He is sooooooooo excited to be Super Why! and go trick or treating with his siblings. Why would we take away that excitement just because he’s already been Super Why! and the costume may be a bit snug? It’s not like it’s inappropriately tight, just a little small. And the extra pressure from wearing something a bit snug is sometimes comforting, relaxing and quite a relief for a sensory seeking child.
Honestly, if this is all it takes to give my son a Happy Halloween, you can bet I’ll be all about it. I’ll take the hit of being “that mom” who puts her kid in a recycled costume that isn’t exactly a perfect fit because his smile, the one that melts every heart upon which it lands, his smile is always a perfect fit.